I had the sickest realization a few weeks ago while making hot chocolate. It wasn't the fact that the hot chocolate wasn't that good and the marshmallows were kind of stale (Trader Joe's, I expected better).
Since moving to New York in June, I've had a craving for romance and lust. Yes, of course, wanting a boyfriend and romance is usually on a girl's mind but it's never something I truly "craved." I had dated here and there in college but it always seemed like an added bonus to have a boy by my side. Nothing that seemed essential to me. That's when I realized I never craved a relationship with a man before because I was so fulfilled with my female friendships. I don't have that since moving and that makes me sad. I never had the emotional need to have a deeper connection with someone because I already had it. I miss my friends.
Like any other 20-something trying to make it as a "writer," living in NYC and who has a spending habit, I worship Carrie Bradshaw. Although deeply flawed, we all see ourselves in Carrie and her dysfunctional yet fabulous squad. Carrie, Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte practically invented #SquadGoals before it was even a thing.
The amount of times I've sat on my bed or at my desk facing the window writing on my Mac should tell you how committed I am to the idea of being a writer (or at least Carrie Bradshaw). But now I just want to be Carrie, Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte.
It is Charlotte who said, "Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have with." I'm a firm believer in this statement. It is hard to describe friendship other than those surges of complete bliss, like, "Wow I can't believe these are my friends and I'm so lucky to have them in my life." You don't just look at a person and think, "Yeah, they're my soulmate." It has to be formed and learned and gained. There comes a time where you can't remember a time when you weren't soulmates. And I mean friendship.
Friends influence us more than we realize. I have caught myself using my friends' mannerisms, sayings or finding pleasure in their interests that I previously knew nothing about. I am a better communicator, more soulful and better person because of my friends. They all make me who I am.
I would say I am pretty good at being fulfilled without being in a relationship. I'm not sure I've ever complained about being single, my singledom or not having a "person." I know my friends are my people. Happy Galentine's Day.
The amount of times I've sat on my bed or at my desk facing the window writing on my Mac should tell you how committed I am to the idea of being a writer (or at least Carrie Bradshaw). But now I just want to be Carrie, Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte.
It is Charlotte who said, "Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have with." I'm a firm believer in this statement. It is hard to describe friendship other than those surges of complete bliss, like, "Wow I can't believe these are my friends and I'm so lucky to have them in my life." You don't just look at a person and think, "Yeah, they're my soulmate." It has to be formed and learned and gained. There comes a time where you can't remember a time when you weren't soulmates. And I mean friendship.
Friends influence us more than we realize. I have caught myself using my friends' mannerisms, sayings or finding pleasure in their interests that I previously knew nothing about. I am a better communicator, more soulful and better person because of my friends. They all make me who I am.
I would say I am pretty good at being fulfilled without being in a relationship. I'm not sure I've ever complained about being single, my singledom or not having a "person." I know my friends are my people. Happy Galentine's Day.