My friends are my soulmates

Me and some of my oldest friends at a Pixies concert on May 22 in Cooperstown, NY.

Soulmate is defined as “a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament” and "a person who strongly resembles another in attitudes or beliefs" by Merriam-Webster online encyclopedia. People search their entire lives for their one soulmate; wanting to be with them forever. But I believe a person can have more than one soulmate, and that a soulmate does not have to specifically be a significant other.



I find myself with my friends - excuse me, best friends - having an overwhelming sense of soulmate-ness sometimes. And maybe we are not soulmates and it is just my crazy young adult mind getting in the way of seeing what is right, but we share the same likes, dislikes, styles, and genuinely have a good time together that causes me to think that more than two people can be soulmates and that a person can have more than one soulmate. 

There is nothing that could get in the way of my friendships with people. I have formed and reformed friendships. A lost friend to me is worse to me more than a breakup could ever be. I formed beautiful friendships with people through middle and high school and the distance that keeps us apart is the least of my worries.

I have learned a lot about friendship. I have fought and laughed hysterically with the same people and it's been so long that I don't think anything will ever change that. It's a beautiful thing for women to have such long-lasting friendships. I know that I can have a fight or a late-night talk with any of my friends and tomorrow it'll all be the same. It's a relationship. 

I feel like I took my high school friends for granted before I left for college. It was the first time I was thrown into something and didn't have anyone to depend on or talk to 24/7. I made some amazing friends my sophomore year of college and I consider them all to be lifelong friends. I am forcing them to be my lifelong friends. 

I will drop everything for you. I will drop everything to help you. I will drop everything to be with you. I will probably never say no to you. I would never want to associate with the "yes generation" of parents but that is me. Want to go out for ice cream at 9 p.m. when it's 40 degrees out? Yes, done that. Want to throw a burrito in my friend's room across the hall? Yes, done that. That boy was mean to you? I say I'll kill, but I'll probably just talk smack to anyone who will listen. 

With my Boston best friends in March.

We cheer each other on at our worst and best. We are each other's biggest and most annoying fans. We are each other's Illana and Abbi. Leslie Knope and Ann Perkins. Katniss and Prim. Cliche to cliche. 

Norah, from 2008's "Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist," tells Nick that he is her musical soulmate after going through his iPod the first time they meet. A soulmate is a connection and being able to feel it doesn't mean it has to be something felt at first. A soulmate is more than a partner, but a friend as well. 

It is hard to describe friendship other than those surges of complete bliss, like, “Wow I can’t believe these are my friends and I’m so lucky to have them in my life.” You don’t just look at a person and think, “Yeah, they’re my soulmate.” It has to be formed and learned and gained. There comes a time where you can’t remember a time when you weren't soulmates. And I know friendship is like that too. 

It is Carrie Bradshaw from "Sex and the City" who said, "Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with." I'm a firm believer in this statement.